who am i?
i am a mother, a lover, a friend, an advocate, a pagan. i am pro-choice, pro-sex, pro-personal fucking autonomy b/c for Ceiling Cat’s sake we aren’t hurting anyone. i am a believer in the great big concept of making this world better for those who are in it, and for making the planet better for those who are on it. sometimes i use the word “fuck” like a comma and i think that is OK.
and i believe.
i believe that the best compliments i have ever received are things that were meant to hurt me. i believe that the patriarchy exists, and that we are all of us victims of it. i believe that gender is a social construct no matter what sex organs or lack thereof you may have under your pants. i believe the gamut of sexuality is as wide, diverse and beautiful as the people in the world. i believe that what happens in my body and my bedroom b/t consenting adults is nobody’s business but my own. i believe porn can be woman friendly. i believe sex workers should have rights b/c they are people too. i believe that women should be free to make their own choices and that we have a responsibility to support them in those choices. i believe that if i have to have perfect grammar and punctuation to get through to you then you are in the wrong fucking forest. i believe i can make mistakes b/c professionals have editors. i believe that fat people are people too and deserving of our love and respect. i believe that putting limits on our choices b/c of the religious or moral codes of a few is hurtful and dangerous to our society. i believe that it is OK to get emotional over something you believe in w/o losing the validity of your point. i believe it is OK to swear and get fucking loud about things b/c people have been saying shit nicely for years and no one even looked up until the little girl said “fuck”. i believe that if i eat an entire tub of butter and no one sees me that the calories don’t count. well, i borrowed that last one…but it still applies…
i am a complex person filled w/ many emotions and thoughts and i refuse to be pigeon holed into any mold, box, social construct, gender norm or expectation or labeled. i will not fall in line b/c you think i owe you something. i refuse to let my job or education be the sum of who i am. sometimes i think that my progressive attitude makes me better than you, but i am an Aries, so that is par for the course…
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Love your site and have linked to it. Would appreciate a link back since you have a guality site and my readers would like it if I left your link up.
Thanks
Allan W Janssen
Ouyang Dan,
I am trying to reach you because you reference Korean TV in your Twitter posts. I need someone who can talk to me about Korean TV. I am a white tv programmer who is being asked to include Korean and Asian themed shows for our viewers. I need some help identifying what is good.
Can you help me?
Fran
seacrest11@gmail.com
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I am trying to find out the reasons I have been banned at FWD. I have never been banned from a feminist blog before. I can’t get any replies to any emails.
My email is Whofan917@yahoo.com. Any information you have would be welcome. Is the ban permanent? How long is it in effect?
Transparency, huh? Right.
Daisy,
The staff of FWD, myself included, as a whole team, already replied to you, multiple times, on this issue. You were not banned from FWD. To come to my own house with this is inappropriate. As such, I will deal with this personally in kind, since you have chosen to come to my house and crap on my rug.
In your communication with us you engaged in ableist and otherwise abusive language that I found offensive. You demanded personal information, which you have no business whatsofuckingever knowing, and no right asking for. Then, you named me, specifically, in a lie, saying that somewhere you and I had personal communication that we have never had, as this is only the second comment EVER that you have left on my personal blog, and that I had somehow personally refused you something, and that you delisted me (whatever the fuck that means, I have no idea, but maybe it is that my young girl brain isn’t mature enough to get your mature jokes). You made assumptions about my background and education that prove you know nothing about me, and erases my experiences as a WoC. I don’t take kindly to people who intend to abuse and lie about me. All of your comments will be held in heavy moderation at this blog until further notice, so that I may approve them, or not, as I feel comfortable, since you have abused me. Let me repeat that, since it is hard for you to tell the difference. You have not been banned. You are free to read and comment here. Your IP is held for moderation so that I can make sure you will not further attempt to lie about me or abuse me on my own blog, which is far more leeway than I give anyone else who tries to pull that same shit, and only because I respect the work you have done, and because I want people to see, publicly and transparently, my side of this situation.
Enough.
Could you delete my comment please? (If you’d rather not, that’s okay too.)
As a bad person (obviously), I’ll cop to everything in the above post, except the “ableist language”; I have asked over and over what this refers to and haven’t been given any reply. (?) I have no idea what this refers to. In my correspondence with FWD, I referred ONLY to my own arthritis, and to no one else’s disability. (And if you thought I was referring to someone else’s other than my own, you are mistaken.)
Daisy, I let you through again, even though you are wrong, again.
I appreciate you owning the things I said above. But I would suggest you go back and read the emails you sent us…because if that is indeed what you were referring to, that is not what you said to any of us, I have no idea how any of us could have drawn that conclusion. I am not mistaken. This matter is closed, and I will not be approving any more comments on it in the future, especially not on this page, as it doesn’t belong here.